So true at home. I haven’t sat on the lounge couch during the holidays as step daughter gets up at midday, wraps herself in her blanket and watches reality shit on TV until bedtime. Wife won’t hear any criticism of this increasingly fat, lazy slug. I feel like I’m in a girl’s flat and irrelevent apart from maintenance and house keeping abilities. Its becoming an issue.
All I can say to that, Brown (with goodwill and no wish to offend you) is this: You’re a father – act like one! Get her off her lazy ass and out of the house, regardless of your wife’s misguided loyalty.
Ever noticed how so many women defend and support their daughters against their husband, even when those daughters behave like assholes?
To me, that’s a betrayal of the marriage contract.
Absolutely. I have seen daughters/step-daughters willfully attack the relationships of their mothers to ensure mum is always on tap for them. Boys not at all. In general young people seem to believe that life is a film in which they each hold the starring role and all else rotates about them. I notice that photos from social occasions often feature young people with their mouths wide open as though life is always a carnival in which they are central. (Vanity, I suppose?)
My observations have lead me to believe that many mothers intentionally sabotage their daughters life in an utterly vain attempt to always seem better by comparison.
I’ve known men trapped in this situation. They are unfortunately the enablers, because since mother has a bad guy in the form of mean old dad she can continue to aid in the destruction of her daughter’s life and still seem like the good guy.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is leave. Fathers are for sons. Mothers are for daughters. If the mother is intent on ruining the daughter then there’s f-all you can do about it but walk out and get on with the rest of your life. Chances are the daughter will turn up in five years are say “you were right”.
… life is a film …
Such a pity it has to be a one star film though. The trouble with step kids is that there’s a layer of control between parties that doesn’t exist with your own. I accept what KG says but its a difficult road, especially with girls and step dads. I’m planning a revenge when she needs transport once school starts.
My two step-daughters are in their 20s and still demand that their mother remains a helicopter* parent to them. Their pissed-up bankrupt father is spoken of in awe in my presence but generally ignored at other times. Their mother is torn, betwixt and between while I maintain my defence mechanism…they all live in Western Australia (5700kms from where I live so I see them at times which suit me.)
* No more of a monsoon bucket.
The article is missing an important factor that until recently has gone un-noticed by most. Children of a nation state need to feel they have a place and a role in that society from the earliest age possible. Scouts. Cadets. Whatever.
Is it any wonder that teenagers fall in with gangs and drugs? They’re filling the hole modern parenting leaves empty called “tribe”, and that’s a hole that’s hard to ignore the presence of.
Exactly.
Brown, you must sort this out sooner rather than later because this stuff is a marriage breaker. My step-daughter moved in with us when she was 14 and I had no knowledge of step-parenting, or parenting at all, for that matter. I tried to replace her mother which was my first and biggest mistake. She moved at a glacial pace, was passive aggressive and goddam lazy. Her company irritated me to the point that I’d go to bed at 7pm so as not to have to endure it. So I dropped the motherly love theme and introduced reasonable discipline, not much caring whether she liked me or not. Her will vs mine. Her father had the sense to avoid the bear-pit and 30 years later she and I highly regard each other. It was a close call at the time but I refused to be a door-mat. Best of luck mate.
Damn good advice, I reckon.
As the psych said, this equality rubbish has got out of hand. Parenting is just one more thing on the long list of whiteys traditions that needs to be smashed in order to make easily manageable compliant little consumers.
Elite’s kids will still be about to shepperd the drongoes, though. Cops will keep arresting, courts will keep releasing, the downward spiral continues.
If I were a praying man I’d pray for a fairly serious “Carrington Event” type disaster. So as to reset while there’s some small degree of sanity in the oversoul of the people about me.
So true at home. I haven’t sat on the lounge couch during the holidays as step daughter gets up at midday, wraps herself in her blanket and watches reality shit on TV until bedtime. Wife won’t hear any criticism of this increasingly fat, lazy slug. I feel like I’m in a girl’s flat and irrelevent apart from maintenance and house keeping abilities. Its becoming an issue.
All I can say to that, Brown (with goodwill and no wish to offend you) is this:
You’re a father – act like one! Get her off her lazy ass and out of the house, regardless of your wife’s misguided loyalty.
Ever noticed how so many women defend and support their daughters against their husband, even when those daughters behave like assholes?
To me, that’s a betrayal of the marriage contract.
Absolutely. I have seen daughters/step-daughters willfully attack the relationships of their mothers to ensure mum is always on tap for them. Boys not at all. In general young people seem to believe that life is a film in which they each hold the starring role and all else rotates about them. I notice that photos from social occasions often feature young people with their mouths wide open as though life is always a carnival in which they are central. (Vanity, I suppose?)
My observations have lead me to believe that many mothers intentionally sabotage their daughters life in an utterly vain attempt to always seem better by comparison.
I’ve known men trapped in this situation. They are unfortunately the enablers, because since mother has a bad guy in the form of mean old dad she can continue to aid in the destruction of her daughter’s life and still seem like the good guy.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is leave. Fathers are for sons. Mothers are for daughters. If the mother is intent on ruining the daughter then there’s f-all you can do about it but walk out and get on with the rest of your life. Chances are the daughter will turn up in five years are say “you were right”.
… life is a film …
Such a pity it has to be a one star film though. The trouble with step kids is that there’s a layer of control between parties that doesn’t exist with your own. I accept what KG says but its a difficult road, especially with girls and step dads. I’m planning a revenge when she needs transport once school starts.
My two step-daughters are in their 20s and still demand that their mother remains a helicopter* parent to them. Their pissed-up bankrupt father is spoken of in awe in my presence but generally ignored at other times. Their mother is torn, betwixt and between while I maintain my defence mechanism…they all live in Western Australia (5700kms from where I live so I see them at times which suit me.)
* No more of a monsoon bucket.
The article is missing an important factor that until recently has gone un-noticed by most. Children of a nation state need to feel they have a place and a role in that society from the earliest age possible. Scouts. Cadets. Whatever.
Is it any wonder that teenagers fall in with gangs and drugs? They’re filling the hole modern parenting leaves empty called “tribe”, and that’s a hole that’s hard to ignore the presence of.
Exactly.
Brown, you must sort this out sooner rather than later because this stuff is a marriage breaker. My step-daughter moved in with us when she was 14 and I had no knowledge of step-parenting, or parenting at all, for that matter. I tried to replace her mother which was my first and biggest mistake. She moved at a glacial pace, was passive aggressive and goddam lazy. Her company irritated me to the point that I’d go to bed at 7pm so as not to have to endure it. So I dropped the motherly love theme and introduced reasonable discipline, not much caring whether she liked me or not. Her will vs mine. Her father had the sense to avoid the bear-pit and 30 years later she and I highly regard each other. It was a close call at the time but I refused to be a door-mat. Best of luck mate.
As the psych said, this equality rubbish has got out of hand. Parenting is just one more thing on the long list of whiteys traditions that needs to be smashed in order to make easily manageable compliant little consumers.
Elite’s kids will still be about to shepperd the drongoes, though. Cops will keep arresting, courts will keep releasing, the downward spiral continues.
If I were a praying man I’d pray for a fairly serious “Carrington Event” type disaster. So as to reset while there’s some small degree of sanity in the oversoul of the people about me.